Is This How We Learn Your Names?


For Dapchi

Is this how we learn your names?
Soaked in blood and tears
drenched in the stench of a nation’s fears.
Would I ever know
Buni Yadi, Chibok, Dapchi
places so pretty
stained by tragedy
bent by the weight of wails ?
My feet have not kissed your dust
but my heart beats for your loss
I long to gather you in my arms
kiss away this pain that keeps growing
a gluttonous cavern, an abyss
which never goes away. Will you
ever get past this to become what you could have been before the war?
what can we call it when our daughters are stolen sons slaughtered
homes set ablaze mercy lost.
Innocents made casualties in a matter
they know nothing about. My arms are too small, my feet feeble but my voice will scream your pain to the heavens
my pen will record your groans, my books will carry your grief, my lens will collect your tears And one day
when pain and war are no more
we will lift an altar to your sacrifice
And at its base will be inscribed
No more death, no more pain, no more loss.

Black Panther: Black Empowerment Beacon, Catalyst For Change Or Just A Movie?


Whether you live under a rock in the Dead Sea or on Kilimanjaro’s peak, you must have heard that this weekend is the Black Panther Premier. Anticipation for this day has been building for close to a year. Black and brown people the world over have voiced their glee about being represented, feeling empowered, and feeling seen.


Along with that excitement, positivity, pomp, has come an opposing school of thought who have criticised the hype around Black Panther and decried the sheer fanatical fevor it has attracted.



The critics of the black response have endeavoured to remind everyone that Black Panther is fiction. They have argued that it is just a dream world, far removed from the everyday struggles of people of colour; unable to create change.

But that is where they are wrong.

Black Panther maybe an Afro-futurist science fiction movie set in the mythical land of Wakanda but it is the kind of fiction that inspires humans to dream and change.

Humans are notoriously resistant to anything that alters their habits and threatens their status quo. To create a change, one must do a few things that Black Panther does excellently.

With the range and scale of entertainment, both free and paid, one of the challenges of anyone with a message is getting and audience. How can I get people to spend scarce consumer minutes and engage with my art?

That is an important question for many artists but for Black Panther, that was a freebie. Riding on a market rife with underrepresentation for people of colour and stereotypical stunted stories, Black Panther enjoyed instant interest. Without knowing much about the story or plot, Black people identified Black Panther as something they had wanted for ages. Excellent advertisements including multiple demographically sensitive and stunningly beautiful posters kept the anticipation building. Now Black Panther has the interest of the entire world. People all over the world are a gains with the story, the characters, the fashion and the message. Interest has been secured.



As of today, it is still difficult to get a chance to watch the movie. People who weren’t a part of the avalanche of pre sales are finding it difficult to secure seats. The privileged ones who have watched the movie already are nearly unanimous in there praise. Summary: this movie delivers in its promise to entertain.


When people are entertained, they are open to new ideas. A famous writer said entertain people and you can get away with anything. Entertaining art is engaging. It makes people look beyond their past and present, it makes people think, it makes people feel.

When people are able to think and feel differently, they can change but one thing makes that easier, that is inspiration. Black Panther inspires. The collective mood of all the black people that watched it one of gladness, hope and possibilities. Children are dressing like the characters, young adults are practicing Wakanda handshakes, but more importantly, black people are asking themselves important questions: What if Africa can chart a new course? What if black people can unite to create a better nation? Can the African Union be more? Do more?

Naysayers have scoffed at the venerated tones in which the movie has been described reductively string that it is “just a movie” “a white man’s construct”
“a waste of time.” I disagree.

I believe that any art: book, movie, poem or song that is able to capture the people’s imagination in this way is more than just a movie. I think that most of the great things man has ever accomplished came from thinking, feeling inspired people. Once, the car, phone, aeroplane and computer were just dreams. Once Holland did it exist and neither did Israel. A movie like Black Panther, a place like Wakanda might just be make believe today, but it is planting seeds for change in the hearts of millions that will fruit in thousands of ways.

Some where, a little boy has decided to be a great, passionate leader of his people. Some where, a little girl has made up her mind to be a brilliant military tactician. Somewhere, an intersex kid is dreaming of a model for a strong prosperous developed Africa.


And right here, right now we have the gift to be alive while the most advanced Afro-futurist movie of all time premiers. Ignore Black Panther if you can, but do not look down on those who see beyond its imperfection to its possibilities, because that is the only way things have changed from what they were to what they could be.


So, is Black Panther a beacon of black empowerment, a catalyst for change or just a movie? The answer is, it can be any of these things or even all three, you get to decide.


CUT! Changing The Stories That Limit You.

Stories can build us. Stories can also break us. No stories are as strong as the ones we tell ourselves. Coming in second are the ones we heard from our guardians growing up: a mother who said you’ll never cook well, a teacher who said you were dumb, a father who just didn’t care….

I have found that we can change the stories we tell ourselves. We can arise like the mythical lion and tell the story of how the hunter wet his pants the first time he heard us roar. We can reclaim the narratives and tell stories that build us up and challenge us to be better and do better.

One of the stories that limited me growing up was the family tale of my carelessness. My mother said it, my father said it. Everyone believed it. Truth be told, I did misplace my fair share of items, but that was something I did, not who I was.

I began to take better care of my things as I grew up but the story wouldn’t change. It got to the point where each time I asked for anything, my Mom or Dad would say, “Here, I know you’ll loose it.”

I would take the said item and guard it with my life. But alas, the story would come to pass and soon the item would vanish into thin air. This kept happening, then one day I had enough.

I asked for a ring boiler and my Mom said the usual words, “Here, I know you’ll loose it.”

I replied,”No Mom, I won’t loose it. I will take good care of it and use it for as long as I want to.”

I had that ring boiler for six years.


Another story that tied me in knots as a writer was the story of rejection. Every one gets rejected, the story said. You will have to get used to getting rejected over and over again. Hey, look, Marlon James, the Man Booker 2015 Prize Winner, his first novel got rejected 78 times, by 78 publishers before it finally got a home.
So-and-So (insert name of big shot) got rejected 66 times.

The more I listened to the rejection story, the more my belly turned to stone. The thing is, I can’t stand rejection. It is bad enough that writing doesn’t pay much and is so darned hard to do, but the least I want at the end of the day is a little applause.

I want a clap on the back and a handshake. I can stomach some nicely worded affirmation padded constructive critique, but to think of someone thrashing my hard work is unthinkable.

So for months, I didn’t submit anything. I self published on my blog. I got pieces accepted through recommendations. I stayed away from the rejection story and it stayed way from me.

Until I realized it wasn’t helping my writing.

Like it or not, writing is a highly subjective business. If you don’t “put your self out there,” you’ll miss many opportunities to be seen. You have to risk the fire to get the gold.

But how do you do that without being rejected?

You change the story. This is the story I tell myself now:

Rejection in writing doesn’t exist.


There could be a match, meaning, well written story meets right publisher/audience at right time. Or a non-match, meaning either the story isn’t well written or the audience/publisher is wrong or the timing is wrong or all three.

Writing a good story is my duty, but the rest is out of my hands.

It is like donating blood. You don’t weep and wail if a patient’s blood type doesn’t match yours. You are the donor, they need you, they are the ones to wail. You just keep giving and some patient somewhere, thanks God above, and lives another day because you did.

So I am going to start working on my stories, polishing them and making them the best they can be. Then I will send them out knowing they are can’t be rejected, they are already accepted; by me and by many other people. All they need is a place to call home. I won’t worry about those non-matches, I won’t wail if it is something out of my hands. I will just keep going because to someone out there, they’ll be the sun and the sea.

Those are some of the stories that limited me and how I changed them. How about you? What stories do/did you need to change?

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The Gender Conversation I

This is harder to write than I thought. My head says this topic is over-flogged. My heart disagrees.

Head: What do you think you are going to say that has not been said already?

Heart: Nothing. Really. But maybe I can help one more person look at things differently. Maybe I can help myself look at things differently.

Head: And that will achieve?

Heart: Nothing. But perhaps it will give someone hope. Perhaps it will help someone up.

Head: How?

Heart: By helping them see–

Head: See what

Heart: That gender equality is not something to be fought for.

Head( gasps and glares) : Tell me something.

Heart: That is what I am trying to do. I don’t see men fighting to be male or children fighting to be child-like. There is no inequality of genders. Why are we imagining one?

Humans are equal.
Genders are equal
Women, men, transgender, asexual, all are humans. All are equal

Head: How dare you say that? After all that the patriarchy has done to women?! Stopping them from voting, working, even driving? Just because they happened to possess a different set of genitals?

Heart: Yes, certain systems have oppressed women over the years but that does not change their worth. I am not less because I have been troubled or hunted or silenced or imprisoned. In fact, I am more.

No one bothers to oppress or repress what they are superior to.

When Caucasians oppressed and sold Africans, did that make us less than they were? I think not.

Oppression is not the basis of worth.

Head: But women can’t do the things men do. They can’t–

Heart: Pee in bottles?

Head: Not that, they can’t run as fast or jump as high or light as many kilograms.

Heart: Interesting. But neither can most men.

Or people with special needs.
Or people with injuries.
Does that make them less male? Or less human? If I took away some of your abilities would you become less human?

Are you a human being or a human doing?

Besides Serena Williams (and many other women) can run faster than many men, jump higher, lift more and earn more. Does that make her a Superman?

Head: Don’t be silly.

Heart: Silly? I am being reasonable, patient, tolerant and kind.

Head: How so?

Heart: I am painstakingly telling you things you have always known yet wilfully ignores just to make sure your wife serves you pounded yam every afternoon.

Head: Don’t you dare bring that up!

Heart: Why?

Head: Because that is what you F**** do. You disrupt homes, spin society on its head, dishonour authority. Be faraway from me!

Heart: Calm down. It is not that bad. Yes sometimes, we F****** overdo things. And sometimes we do them wrong. But those are mistakes not standards.

The standards are simple: let no human be discriminated against because of gender.

In fact, the standards are so universal we are planning a name change–

Head: A WHAT?!

Heart: A name change. Since F****** has become a taboo word, we formerly known as F****** now wish to be known and addressed as Humanists. (Broad smile)

Head(deep groan): How can you? Haven’t you caused enough trouble already? Must you create an anti- religion now?

Heart: Not really. The word has four meanings. Go with the fourth one.

Head: Which is?

Heart: marked by humanistic values and devotion to human welfare.

Head: That is confusing.

Heart: Yes it is. The entire spectrum of human oppression, sexism,racism, war, famine, and poverty is confusing.

But we can’t stop trying. We have to keep trying. Not to make sense of it, but to stop it. To contain it. To help free people that are suffering because of it.

We can’t look away and pretend it doesn’t exist. We can’t wish it away either. We must do what we can where we are to change the injustices we find around us.

Head: But what about families? What about wives? Would you have them disrespect their husbands? Or would you have women stay single? What is the way for these women empowering ideas to exist within the family structure?

Heart: It is easy. We’ll talk about that tomorrow. Dress up, It is time for work.

I hope you enjoyed the first part of the Gender Conversation. I hope to continue it tomorrow. So please share and come back to read the next part. Many thanks!

If Wishes Were Horses: Using Technology To Curb The Spread Of Ebola?

It is a nightmare brought to life. Our worst fears confirmed, the deadly Ebola virus has arrived in Nigeria and already at least 8 people are feared to be infected.

Discovered in 1976, Ebola has been profiled as an ‘African Disease’ that is a reflection of poor healthcare service. The recent outbreak however puts that line of thought in doubt as well as questions all previous assumptions and knowledge about the ailment.

For instance, the co-discoverer of the virus has been quoted as saying that he wouldn’t be worries about sitting next to an Ebola patient on a train except the person vomited on him or something. He went ahead to cite instances of children living in houses with Ebola patients without contacting the disease, in 1976.

The 2014 version of Ebola seems quite different. Despite the use of full Personal Protective Gear (Masks, gloves, goggles,scrubs), health-workers are getting infected.

Mr Sawyer, an American who flew into Nigeria with the disease and was seen in a hospital in Lagos for barely 72 hours and yet at least 4 medical personnel that attended to him are believed to be infected as well.

This raises questions.

1. Is the transmission of this virus fully understood?

2. Is this strain of Ebola different? If yes, how?

3. Can we continue to use the usual methods of patient care and nursing despite the huge risks?

4. What changes could we make? If wishes were horses?

Personally, the outbreak has kept me thinking. One thing is very clear, we don’t know enough about this illness and we need to change the way we are handling it if we are to make any progress towards ending the scourge.

That’s where technology comes in. If resources were available, these are some of the things I would like to see.

1. Robots used to clean, feed and nurse the affected patients.

2. Specialized beddings that soak and disinfect secretions as they are being produced.

3. Skype type communication with affected patients.

4. Mechanised disposal of bodies in dedicated cremation machines.

And so on.

As long as a cure doesn’t exist, breaking the chain of transmission is the only hope. If one man could infect eight others then imagine: how many people could be at risk from the eight?

It is time for scientists, bio-scientists and engineers to join the fight against this dreadful disease.

It is time for a change of tactics in curbing the spread.

The sooner, the best.

P/S: Opportunities exist for clinicians interested in working with Ebola patients. Contact me.

The Making Of A Writer

Some began to write in their teens. Some began in primary school.
Some began to write at four.
Some began in their diapers.

You read these things and fear fills your heart. Older than thirty, you are considered a middle aged writer. If you had a british passport, at least you would have the Granta 40 under 40 to dream off. Now it is just a void, a chasm of missed opportunity and a glyph of wasted youth. A tragedy of ignorance, science-subject-fixation, and the buying of lies: You must be a doctor. Best grades guarantee a good life. Writers are hungry. Nigerians don’t read. Who reads Africans?

Then, you hear a whisper: soft but sure, solemn but loving, coming from somewhere below your right ear.

It says:

You aren’t a middle aged writer. You aren’t a writer when the world says you are one.

You were a writer before you were born.

When God foreknew you, thought of you,

When you awaited a family in His Mind,

You were a writer.

He designed you for your purpose with the care and skill of the Ultimate Precision Engineer.

He placed you in that home where books were loved, honoured– nay– worshipped on purpose.

He placed the library on your daily walk to school’s route. (Made sure they still had books in them at the time) for a reason.

He put Aesop’s fables, Nurudeen’s adventures and dozen’s of Enid Blyton books in your hands because your destiny needed them.

He gave you Law lecturers as parents. You spent weekends reading the Nigerian Constitution and Law Gazette’s aloud while Dad nodded and corrected your pronunciation. You spent weekdays perfecting spellings while Mom stirred her pot of Atama soup and passed you bits of dry fish, because that was the childhood you needed for your calling.

You had magnets in your hands and books were drawn to you all the time: Pacesetters, Onitsha Market Literature, Babylonian History,My Book of Bible Stories, A Good Sex Guide, and so many Agatha Christie whodunits .

You skipped from school to dorm saying your poems, your rhymes and you made up songs. The songs outlived your brief six year stay there. Your book of poems, wasn’t so lucky.

Even as a science student, you tried to study Geography. After a single class and you ran to Literature where you belonged. There you outshone the art students without meaning to, like a fish that found a stream.

“I’ll make you Minister Of Literature when I am President” your bosom friend said and both of you giggled into packets of Okin biscuit and diluted Ribena ‘juice’ concentrate.
Such dreams weren’t SSCE compatible.

You joined the Press Club, the Wazobia Club, The Drama Club, The Debate Club too. You days were full of words, themes and expression– a rainbow from literary heaven.

To be continued.

Thank you

God Bless You!

Time Travel

I remember when gay
Meant happy,
When doggy was a nickname
For Bingo,
When people wrote letters,
Made up tall stories,
About holiday trips,
Without being asked to Twitpic.

I remember when we made our
Own games,
Knew our real names,
Planted our own food,
Weeded our farms,
Went home for New Year,
Hunted snails and mushrooms,
Told tales by moonlight.

I remember when the f-word
Was taboo,
Marriage was forever,
Jobs for graduates were instant,
Suicide bombs unheard of,
Laurels won by merit,
Mobile phones a luxury,
Kidnapping a western anomaly.

I remember and
I wonder,
Are we going back
Or moving forward?
Is this the Nigerian Dream
We longed for?
Are we better now
Or worse off?

Anti-WalterGate: 7 Steps To Smart Cheating.

The deaf have read and the blind heard that young ladies are confessing their adultery to blogshpere. Aside from being a sin, and a shame, cheating is also a crime. You don’t want to be caught. You don’t want your name to join the Register Of The InFamous: Clinton, Sanusi, Woods, Lewinsky, Stewart,Lafave….

So, here is what you should do.

1. Don’t.

Don’t cheat. You are bigger than that. Come on. Think about it: why should less than a kilo of meat get you make you risk so much? The excitement? You can do better. You have a wide range of options: self-service, licenced and celibate. Choose one and make it work. Tape your eyes shut. Have a cold bath. Go for a walk. Count sheep. Watch a movie. Write comments on my blog.

2. Don’t.

Hey? Still here? I meant everything I said. It always ‘comes to light’ at the end of the day. Imagine how your partner will feel. And your parents. And your kids. And your colleagues. And that neighbour that never liked you. It isn’t worth the sweat. Don’t burn yourself for a waffle. Don’t trade your birthright for beans.

3. Don’t Reveal Your Identity.

It is true isn’t it? From the days of the woman caught red-handed in the act of adultery. (I wonder where her partner was? Did she cheat alone? Questions that make feminists riot.)

And as a pig that must wallow, a dog that must lap it back up– your mind is made up.

Conceal your identity.

Yes. If you must. Do it with a stranger. Of course you have to know them enough for them to get that close to you. And to make sure they don’t end up murdering you. (RIP Cynthia).

That’s what aliases are for.

If your name is Solomon Fat Oyinbo for instance, you could call yourself Solo. Or Toyin. Or Oyinbo. Or Fat even.
That is shorter than No-MoreProblems and sexier than Blue Ivy. Less Problematic than giving away your real name.

What ever. Just choose something you won’t forget. The more common the better. Keep your bio-data out of it. Stick to the aims of the game. Remember the proverb that says if you must eat a toad, make it a fat one. And keep it anonymous.

4. Don’t Leave A Trail.

Remember you are on a covert mission. Don’t get sloppy. Sometimes the pheromones surge and you find yourself wanting to buy things, take pictures and sleep over. Don’t.

If you must, give, have someone else buy it. Keep no paper trails. Never shop for your partner. Never shop WITH your partner. Ever heard of CCTV? Close circuit Television monitoring?

If you must take pictures, you do the photography. No “pictures for later”. No nudes. Nada.

Never fall asleep. No naps. No post coital snooze. No sleep overs. You will wake up to your photos on Facebook. On Twitter and BBM, they’ll be stale.

5. Don’t Advertise .

Sexual attraction is a stupid thing. It crashes people’s IQs and sucks out their brains. So don’t be surprised when you start feeling a need to flaunt your new catch. Kill it. The need of course. (Hope you didn’t think of killing the catch.) There must be no public displays of affection: no holding hands, no pecks on the forehead, no nuzzling and no sustained eye contact.

You are doing something dangerous and stupid. Try to play the dice.

6. Don’t Be Dumb, Use Condoms.

I shouldn’t even mention this. With the global rates of HIV, Herpes 1, Herpes 2, Hepatitis, Chlamydia, Incurable Gonorreah, Syphillis, Warts, Chancroid, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease etc. You should already know this.

You don’t, so let’s say this slowly.

Don’t add stupidity to iniquity.

Use a condom.

1. Buy it at a store. (Not from an itinerant quack)
2. Make sure it’s not expired.
3. Don’t use oil based lubricants.
4. Pinch the tip before you roll.
5. One per act.
6. Remove immediately.
7. Pray it doesn’t burst.

Do all that all the time.

7. Don’t Do It With Someone That Has Little To Lose.

It’s a tango. Don’t choose a partner that ll land you on the floor. An ideal partner is as motivated to keep it secret as you are. They won’t push for more. They won’t publish your last rendezvous. They are as scared as you are.
Yeah, you must have noticed that the tips are all flawed. Stop. Before you get caught. Or get sick. Or worse.

Questions & Answers.

Is anything hidden under the sun?

How long can you conceal your identity?

Don’t they see you on TV talking about CBN policy?

Isn’t your face on all the billboards?

They did. It is.

How low can you keep it when it takes two to tango?
Not low enough.

What about when the condom bursts? Ouch.

How can you stay clean?
Won’t you call?
Won’t you chat?
Won’t DM?

You will and they will munch your chat. You will forget to “erase chat” one day. You will fall asleep with the computer on. Your partner will have a guilt crisis and feel the need to squeal.

And Anti-WalteGate Updated will be posted.


You brave elements,
Defy odds,
Conquer distance, difference
And time.
Deeper than your heart
Further than your bowels
In the recesses of self,
Hot and boiling over
Spilling from
You unto the page.
Overflow into action,
A petition,
But stronger still,
The fire in your belly
Shows you are
Not dead and buried
As they want us to believe.
You are waking up to
Your power
Your beauty
Your synergy
To all we can achieve together
If we try,
And by God,
You light up my sky.

*Dedicated to all those that have raise their voices, pens and signatures against the menace of child brides.

‘My Boy’ Chronicles | Part 3 | Falling Dominoes

“Akpos, what are you doing?”

“What does it look like I am doing?”

“I don’t know, I have never seen you look this serious. Are you writing an exam?”

” Of course not. I am trying to hack into Amanda’s mailbox.”

“Mailbox? Oh! You mean her email? Why would you want to hack someone’s mailbox? That’s criminal isn’t it?”

“Okon, please leave me alone. If you had a shred of sense, you won’t be here asking me dumb questions. You would be looking for someone to help you get into Amanda’s August workshop. How far do you think your talent can take you without help? I pity you, working like an elephant, eating like a sugar ant. Now please don’t disturb me, I think I am unto something”

“Haba, Akpos, you too dey vex! What is all this workshop talk? I am tweaking my stories to send to notable foreign literary magazines like Per Contra, Granta, Transition and the Boston Review.
Once I am accepted, I will then proceed to a life of fame, fortune and literary acclaim. I, will host workshops! Not beg for spaces. Which is why I came, I was hoping you look at my story ‘ Privacy’. ”

“Okon abeg leave matter. Privacy ko. Celebrity ni. You never hear wetin dey? The best writers in Africa have their manuscripts in Amanda’s box. After being anointed at her workshop! Just a trip to one of her workshops and you stand the chance to be announced on the world stage. Instant exposure. Instant audience. There’s even a certain guy’s work I have been asked to watch out for: Ije Ilowooor. Once I guess her password, all I have to do is to read the manuscripts add a little spice here and there then viola! My bestselling Africana novel is ready!”

“Akpos! You are so funny. Gosh! What kind of foolishness is that? What makes you think the manuscripts in someone’s email are better than those that have received international acclaim? Why not buy the novels that are on the shelves and learn from the masters? You are part of the problems of the Nigerian publishing industry! There are no short cuts to success. Even if you succeed this time, how will you sustain the flow? Or do you have a mind reading app that you plan to insert unto people’s phones?”

“Okon, please! You are talking about talent and hard work when all I need is a good PR team, a godmother and some celebrity endorsements. Go back to slaving away over word choice, I have found the path to glory and I am taking it.”

“Na wa o! This is so sad. Why don’t you walk up to the bookshop and charter a shelf full of African novels? Books like On Black Sister’s Street by Chika Unigwe, We Need New Names by NoViolet Bulawayo, Even Amanda’s Americanah. Surely these will possess the magic formula you seek. Besides, how can you expect that anyone will buy your ‘fantastic’ book when you don’t buy books yourself? This is madness, madness!”

” Hehehehe, call it what you like. Haven’t you heard that what the gate keepers want is ‘new African writing’? Your Coke prize shortlistees weren’t they the best from your long list of foreign literary magazines? Did Amanda read any of them? Next month, she will be hosting a ten day writing workshop for African writers. What have your Nigerian publishers done for the Nigerian writer? What? They want to come and reap where they did not sow. See as Madam Patience don arrange all her River’s State sons, Amaechi and co. Your Wole Soyinka is there speaking in tongues. Well, good luck and patience to you. You will need it, in fact, you will need a lot of it.”

“Thank you for ruining my evening. I am leaving. I wonder why I came here in the first place. I was better off at home tweaking my story. This was such a waste. Good night.”

“Good night Okon. Keep tweaking. People are getting into workshops by ‘divine favour’, booted into limelight by prominent figures, discovered and awarded by foreign bodies…. You are here tweaking. Keep tweaking. Mtcheeeew!”


Names And Meanings

Chimamanda = My God is unfailing.

Elnathan = Given by God.

Ngozi = Blessing.

John = God is Gracious.